Yea - I'm kind of with most of the rest of the replies here.
This really has little to do with love and more to do with sex it would seem.
You have to keep that distinction in mind.
There's obvious power struggles here, insecurities, fears etc and those are all things we strive to banish in our lives.
But like any habit - the first step to forward movement is acknowledgment.
The calling a spade a spade part.