Originally Posted by redpepper
If he wants his cake and to eat it too, so should you, and so should your female partner. Why shouldn't either of you pursue other men if you want to? It's your right to have your needs met as much as it's his.
Exactly. I would think that if some one is truly poly, there would be a greater understanding towards gender neutrality when accepting your partner's interests. Otherwise it does seem like harem building to me. Although I'm sure this is completely ok for some people either male or female as the roles could be reversed. Sounds like getting all the cake without having to do the baking. Dessert without work so to speak.