I see polyamory as simply the ability to love more than one, not that it is about having multiple loves.
It's a matter of criteria as far as the one dick fantasy goes. If he doesn't want to be in a relationship that involves more than one dick than that is his criteria to share himself in that way. It's not a double standard unless he gets to have more than one pussy.
If she requires more than one dick and he can't accept this, than he doesn't meet her criteria to be in a relationship and she does not meet his.
If people don't meet each others criteria, they move on. Simple and plain. I don't see what the huge struggle is sometimes...maybe I'm just tired. You either fit each others criteria or you don't.
Playing the Game of Life with Monopoly rules.
Monogamy might just be in my genes
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