FEAR is never the right motivator for a long term decision.
I have 4 kids, (18, 14, 10, almost 3).
I'm in a poly relationship (v at the moment) with the two men I want to spend my life with.
One I've been involved with for 17 years (bf)
the other for 12 years (dh)
When does it stop?
I love them both.
Family not approving?
Not their marriage-that whole "cleave unto your wife"... yeah-when you get married your parents lose their right to tell you how to live your life.. (well for me it was LONG before I married-but point is the same)....