I have a LOT of thoughts-none of which are very nice...
Here is the issue for me...
My understanding of polyamory is that it's about having (and accepting) MULTIPLE LOVES.
Ok-so WHAT is LOVE??
This has been argued to death on the board and I already know that many people here don't agree with my definition.
BUT I'm not in your relationship-so my definition isn't pertinent.
By YOUR definition of LOVING someone-
is it LOVING to have double standards?
Really-that's the question yes??
For me the answer is, no.
For others the answer may be "maybe", others still may say "yes".
Personally I don't think that there is anything loving about a double standard. It's selfish and it's self centered, self-serving...
This is one of the primary reasons why people think that polyamory is just another word for "man with no respect for women who wants to fuck whoever he feels like with no consequences."
Which makes a really shitty situation for those of us who really practice a fully loving, compersion filled polyamory....
"Love As Thou Wilt"