Interesting-I don't understand the question.
But from Ariakas reply-I'm curious as all hell.
Maca and I are working on the details of a 24/7 D/s relationship.
There is NO DOUBT at all that choosing to be the sub is actually GIVING me the power.
Now that may or may not be true for everyone-I'm not everyone and I'm not in anyone else's relationship.
BUT for us-it's sure as hell true-and no I'm not talking about "topping from the bottom".
As my Dom he is EVEN MORE responsible to ensure that he is not only meeting my needs but helping me to be the best person I can be. Instead of getting to run around and selfishly do whatever he pleases. (sometimes this detail kicks his ass-giggle).
But before you ever get to "24/7 D/s" you have this little thing called a "D/s agreement" which the SUB fills out. Hard limits, soft limits blah blah blah.
I get to write MY limits on there-he can agree or he can NOT BE MY DOM. SO yeah-sub is ACTUALLY the one holding the power.
Anyway-please return to the regularly scheduled program-I'm curious to hear more!
"Love As Thou Wilt"