There is some truth in what will be will be.
Also-when we worry about the future-we bring negativity into our life unnecessarily-I know-it's easy to do, hard not to.
But it is better to not worry until you know that there is cause for worry.
in terms of getting the care you need-if she is prego, immerse yourself in it. You will find that if you are her primary helper-you will feel more involved and less needy.
Our youngest is biologically mine and my boyfriend's child. My husband was at my side every minute and totally involved. Believe me you-that helps A LOT.
Also-it's a well documented truth that when we are busy helping another person in a way that makes us feel needed and appreciated, we tend to feel more satisfied and happy.
"Love As Thou Wilt"