Originally Posted by Ariakas
He specifically said, unless it is being repeated, if you only cheated once and won't ever do it again, .
I think the key here is the word "repeated" and realizing that you shouldn't believe that you get one freebee for each relationship. If you cheat once you should learn a life long lesson from that that prevents you from repeating it not just in your current relationship.
I had an affair and cheated in the past and learned from that experience...there's my freebee...if it were to happen again I have a problem.
Dan Savage is a well spoken guy but he isn't very poly sustainablilty positive. I think I posted a link to one of his videos on here.