Originally Posted by faraday
I think it is ridiculous to set out with a relationship that looks like ours as a goal. I think having a goal as to what your relationship "should" look like almost always screws you up in the long run. We just went into the world with our hearts open and willing to push ourselves and try to make things work and this is how it turned out.
This is really nice. And it's something I think most forget sometimes - or simply don't know going in.
The simple act of "looking for" sets up certain designs and expectations that end up getting used as comparisons. And most of those comparisons come up short in one way or another.
It's almost better it seems to expect nothing, just be open, and cherish what you happen to discover instead !