If you are looking for get-togethers in various parts of Upstate New York, may I suggest that you join our forum called the Birdcage? The link is at http://www.thebirdcage.org/
which provides all the details for signing up.
We are now holding 2-3 dinner meet-ups in various parts of the state every month, along with movie outings, coffee shop meetings, even a knitting circle (I'm not kidding!) The forum can be used to gauge interest and organise whatever poly-related, or poly-friendly events you would like.
I will post specific details of dates to this thread in future, rather than creating new threads for each event and cluttering up the board.