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Old 04-27-2010, 11:54 PM
jallenhayslett jallenhayslett is offline
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Default Hi All

New to Poly here.

Been in a mono relationship for 1.5 years. Picked up a copy of Ethical Slut a year ago but never read it while I was in my mono. I recently broke up with my mono and decided to read through. After reading I know what attracted me to the book in the first place. This sings to me in a way I haven't been able to vocalize for years.

I label myself as bi, only privately and to the closest of friends, but definitely have a propensity towards women. I guess you could say my standards for the men I would consider sharing myself with are pretty high, as are my standards for women. I described my sexuality to one friend at one time as being tied to whomever I am with at the time. If I am with a male, then I am gay. If I am with a female, then I am straight. Call it what you want it. I prefer both at different times.

That being said, the one thing that attracted me to the book to begin with was the idea that, much like a group of friends, I can find fulfillment from each one of them, but on a much deeper level and for different parts of myself. There is barely a sliver within me that is content with sharing myself with one person. I find that a circle of relationships is crucial to a fulfilling life. Imagine "Friends" only a lot less monogamy and a lot more freedom. Yes, I just made a "Friends" reference.

So that's a scratch on the surface. I'm embarking on a new journey. Things will get deeper as they go.

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