Thank you GS. That does give me something to think about. At this point I was just thinking about putting it out there , never really thinking its a elephant in the room that every one sees but no one wants to talk about. My thought where to tell him just to get on with our friendship/or what may be left.
I need to take a deep breath and step back. I have been standing behind him so long there is no reason to throw my self in front right now. As I think about it he called me to tell me the marage was over,not Bear. May be there is a small hope, but my biggest hope is he comes out of this happier. With or with out me.
A new love is vary shiny, but with a regular polish a old one shines just as bright.