Thanks for your replies
Thanks to all. I really appreciate you taking the time to reply. I'd like to share your replies with my wife, even though I think it will be hard for her to read some of what is said. But it could be a way to continue our dialogue and work on how we can find a way forward.
I'll keep you posted and will certainly keep reading up on the issues we all face, caught up in this emotional maelstrom.
Best to all,