Originally Posted by inlovewith2
Another V poly group told my dh that because they don't want to hang out, we don't qualify as a poly relationship.
I have to say that is one of the most stupid things I've ever heard. If you've built a vee, then you have a poly relationship structure. Whether the ends of the vee hang out with each other has nothing to do with that.
I'll offer that you should be wary of any information those folks try to give you in the future.
When speaking of various forms of non-monogamy...it ain't poly if you're just fucking around.
While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.