I hope you do a lot of reading on here, because there are definitely commonalities. It is common to feel jealous, to feel there is not enough time with a partner, common to have personality conflicts, common to find love in strange places, common that poly will change ones life.... the list goes on... there are a lot of answers to you questions right here on this forum. Take it slow, do a lot of reading, at least meet the wife once(sorry AN, any other way makes me feel that the person is cheating,,, bad expereince dictates that for me) and get communicating as best you can and in any way you can. If this guy is poly then hopefully he knows enough to know these things already and you can simply say, "okay, so you are poly, is this is where we get open and honest about how we feel and ask each other questions...? should I go first or you?"
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