I totally appreciate your comments on focusing on what I can/am willing to do or be involved with. I agree with this that positivity begets more positivity. The book is a good sugggestion too. My hubby has a book that I have not yet read, but am planning to.
We have discussed some boundries, but the negotian is challenging to say the least. Partly because I don't really know what I am okay with. However, we are still working on this and are not leaping into too much just as yet.
I am really struggling to figure out what I am feeling. This is probably one of the biggest challenges in my life. Part of the challenge is that I have a lot of other difficult things in my life. Aging parents, a child moving away, recent family deaths. So sometimes I feel really lost in all this.
Thank you so very much for your response and willingness to listen.