I think everyone has had some great ideas and advice and sharing, but I am wondering about the rapes you went through. Have you had any therapy and gotten through it? This man you are seeing could really trigger a lot of issues for you if you haven't dealt with your past. It sounds like he is patient, caring and empathetic towards you, but that doesn't mean he won't bring some pretty major issues up for you.
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