Originally Posted by LovingRadiance
Quantam! Welcome to you as well!
It's so nice to be able to hear from both partners! It really fills in the gaps MUCH better!
I hope you both stick around and share.
It sounds like you really have a good sensible appreciation for your SO's good traits! That is SUCH a nice thing to have!
I hope to hear more from both of you soon!
I'm glad that you enjoyed hearing my perspective. If it can help others find a relationship that works, then talking about it will be worth it.
As for my appreciation of Samaki, it goes far beyond just the good traits.
I love the whole package, good and bad. I even love the parts of her that tell her she needs to be a "good girl" and suppress who she truly is as a complete person. (Though I do encourage her to move beyond that very limiting mentality.) And she helps me overcome my own baggage and become a better person as well.
We are partners in life and I have her back on 100% of her decisions, even in the rare cases that I disagree with her judgement. Her poly exploration is really core to her and something I completely support. She always had issues with fidelity (well her guilt about how she acts in a relationship) and that's why we decided on having an "open" relationship from the get go. (and to be honest it is mostly a one-way "open" as it take a lot of emotional energy for me to become intimate with another person) I think that a "poly" expression is very natural for her and she really has been interested in in and spent a lot of time thinking about it and discussing it with me. She obviously also tried with her other BF but that didn't go as well.
In the end, I just want both of us to feel happy and have a healthy relationship with each other. Like someone said earlier in the thread, it will probably turn out that our relationship and a series of "flings" will be what she really wants but I'm open to however she wishes to express herself.
Talk more with you later. Thanks for the insight.