check out the communication thread in "golden nuggets".
There is some great info in there.
One thing I picked up just before marrying Maca (12 years ago) was that men don't fix what is working. SO if you think it needs fixed-LEAVE IT FOR THEM.
IN this case it translates to, stop contacting him. I know. That SUCKS. I really do know that. But I have found that it works-either he really doesn't want to talk to you, in which case it's better to know sooner than later, or he does and because you are scarce, he'll reach out.....
I'm so sorry you are having to deal with such drama! It does suck that life isn't fair and knowing it isn't does not stop it from hurting. Big hug!