Can I just say how refreshing it is to have someone understand?
We didn't announce the divorce, but when W and I had a reason to tell someone, we would explain it calmly and rationally, interspersed with confirmations of our continuing love and mutual support. We got responses of alarm, sadness, and frustration that the marriage was ending - even though nothing but the legal contract was ending! It was like we were spoiling everyone's view of us walking together by leaving the shackles behind.
The kids understood best of anyone, I think. "You did this when? We didn't notice. And nothing's going to change? Okay. Why are we talking about this?"
Thanks for the affirmation, and I hope other folks who are considering such a thing realize they aren't alone.
SlowPoly • vee hinge • living between two homes
Mitch ('M') • life partner • co-parent • former LDR
Woof ('W') • life partner • co-parent • former spouse