Hello and welcome.
I would like to suggest http://www.xeromag.com
. It is a totally awesome site which has helped me through some rough patches.
When my Primary (don't like the term but can't figure out what else to call him atm) has a date with someone else he does tell me that he's going. I just make sure that I have something else to do at that time--quality time with my kids, my own date, girl's night out, work, etc.
Keep talking, it really does help.