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Old 06-12-2014, 07:42 PM
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Originally Posted by Atrueunicorn View Post
I feel terribly guilty for falling for the other guy too and I'm having a terrible time getting over the new guy, I am angry at myself for falling for him where the poly thing was only supposed to be about sex and fun.
Sounds like what you were hoping for was to just have an open relationship and the freedom to have NSA recreational sex, and not really polyamory. The word means "many loves" for a reason - falling in love and cultivating loving relationships with multiple people is the basic idea.

And it seems to me that if you don't feel comfortable having conversations with your partner about your emotional life and experiences with other partners and lovers, then you probably aren't ready or your relationship isn't stable enough for any type of non-monogamy.
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