Originally Posted by kdt26417
So then I think that the most important point is, it's often not healthy to compare ourselves with "the other guy" at all, but rather, that we set personal goals based on our own personal performance as we perceive it.
Right, an internal source of self-esteem will likely be healthier in the long term and will provide a more stable sense of worth.
Shifting to a wider array of qualities, "well I'm better than them at X, at least" is an inferior source of self-esteem. It's a valuable tool in the short term, don't get me wrong, but it shouldn't be confused as actually addressing the insecurity at hand.