Originally Posted by gerardo
is it true that primary relationships are priority in this culture?
For some people, yes, a primary relationship (or two or more) is sometimes the focus of being poly. (I know a few people with two or more primaries at the same time. I admire the heck out of these folks!)
Others are utterly uninterested in having a primary relationship, don't follow hierarchical poly and/or are solo poly, relationship anarchy practitioners and so on.
While there is something of a 'default' expectation that people want a primary relationship, or remain in one, there are so many ways to be ethically poly that it can't be said that this is a priority across all poly culture(s).