Glad to hear things are going ok. Anticiaption sure can be a bitch sometimes.
I agree completely with Mono. I'm not sure how much this will help in your situation, but my husband actually wrote a letter to Elric telling him that yes, he was ok with us persuing a romantic relationship. Elric really appreciated that even though things didn't pan out in the end. Nothing too "crazed" or epic, just a note telling him that you are ok because this is what is making her happy right now and that is the most important thing to you.
You might want to bring it up to your lady first though.
Keep it up, stay strong.