Hi Bluelens and welcome to the forum! I hope this forum will provide new perspectives to you and make the bumps on your road a little smaller - it definitely has done that for me.
Sounds like your poly dynamic is good and healthy from what you described. It is cool that you managed to get over the shock of not having a quad and you could go on with your other relationship.
Hope to hear more from you! Feel free to participate in all discussions that you find interesting.
I am a woman with two male partners: CJ (legal husband) and Mark (no label added).