A very early good morning
I am terrible about introductions but let's see where this goes.
Bluelens here. I have been married for 14 years this September. My wife and I started out open/swing several years ago but rarely acted upon it. After some exploration we discovered that we enjoyed a combination of relationship and sex with others and soon discovered the poly end of the 'non monogamous' spectrum. Poly seemed to better encapsulate where we stood philosophically.
We had our first actual relationship with another couple for a couple years and that disolved. After a little break we stumbled upon another couple and things hit off well. After a short time the other female and myself kept going strong while my wife and the other guy fizzled out - they are friends and friendly just things didn't quite connect, it happens. This new dynamic started a new and unexpected chapter. We had talked about what it would be like to have a second relationship where it wasn't with a couple but I think it actually happening was still a little shock to the system. Needless to say a learning curve in respect to comfort levels was needed. Unfortunately since then my wife has had a difficult time in finding another mate. We are still trying to figure things out even alter a few years - which has been tough on everyone.
There have been some rocky areas and we have been able to maneuver through them, mostly.
We have read books and listened to podcasts and read websites but don't have many people we can talk to about things in this realm, which had made it a little difficult to pilot through rough patches. So I'm hoping to be able to engage in conversation here that will provide insight and other approaches to take and different perspectives to keep in mind.
Anyway. That is a brief snapshot of at least me and why I am here.