You're both acting more like you're having an affair than anything else. I'd think carefully about staying in a situation where you resent his wife. It will consume you.
She doesn't make you feel like that. He does. He's the one you're dating and he's the one who has chosen not to set things up in a way that stops you from feeling like a secondary. The reality is that with his marriage, kids, work, family commitments etc, he may not have the resources for anything "more" than a typical secondary style relationship. Despite what he would want in an ideal world.
Last edited by london; 06-02-2014 at 03:46 AM.