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Old 04-17-2010, 06:24 AM
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Originally Posted by nicraq View Post
Yep I too really like your host/guest analogy BUT I think there's a shadow side to our 'universal need for connection' (belonging/love) which is our equally basic need for separation (freedom/hate) I believe this has to be acknowledged and allowed to be creatively expressed (somehow...) in any honest and satisfying relationship. Whatever boundaries we set ourselves part of us wants to break them, what do you think? X
Welcome nicraq !! I agree that the shadow is real and something to be acknowledged. As with anything worth pursuing, balance is the key. The awareness of conflicting values within myself (security/freedom) is at the core of my decision to life a poly lifestyle. For me, this conflict has to be consciously dealt with.
The key to life is in being fully engaged and peacefully detached simultaneously and authentically in each moment.
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