Hugs... I know the 3am ramblings come out of a place where you need to vent.
This stuff that he's reading sounds similar to the "Red Pill" movement that's growing on Reddit. This article seems to explain it fairly well:
It's got some tenets (improve yourself and you'll attract a "high-quality" person) that seem reasonable on the outside, but execution seems more pickup artist than genuine.
Hopefully he's just trying this stuff on for size, seeing what fits and discarding what doesn't. Just remember that supporting *him* doesn't mean supporting everything he does. If Chops wanted to start smoking again, I sure as hell wouldn't support it, but I'd want him to figure out why he needs it and to see if there were another, better way to get that.
Hang in there, and I hope you got some sleep.
Mono. Divorced, two kids, two cats, one house with many projects.
Chops (previously 'P'):
My partner of ~3 years. Poly. In relationships with me, Xena, and Noa.
Xena (previously M1):
Poly. In relationships with Chops and Noa, and dating others.
Noa (previously AG):
Married, Poly. In relationships with Chops and Xena (individually).
My navel-gazing blog thread:
A Mono's Journey Into Poly-Land (or, "Aw hell, there's no road map?!")