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Old 05-15-2014, 05:51 PM
InsaneMystic InsaneMystic is offline
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Originally Posted by rdos View Post
Polyamory:

"The practice of building multiple intimate relationships at a time with other consenting adults."

I don't think this is a good definition, as "intimate" in most people's mind means sex, and thus this definition again excludes asexual polyamory.

I would prefer:
"The practice of building multiple attachments at a time with other consenting adults."

Or:
"The practice of building multiple romantic attachments at a time with other consenting adults."
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Originally Posted by rdos View Post
In ordinary people's minds it does. I know because I have researched it. Being asexual and liking intimate relationships is negatively correlated. Intimate relationships is also linked to making love, so in ordinary people's mind these are similar things.

It will give people the wrong associations.
I'd definitely prefer the "intimate" definition, by a big margin... and not only am I asexual, I'm one of those RA weirdos who don't think there's much any difference between "very close friend" and "partner", aside from what label feels most comfy for everyone involved to go by. To me, friendships worthy of that name (instead of just being aquaintances) are intimate relationships, and all healthy 'ships are some form of FWB.

And sorry, but "attachments" makes me shudder. That word evokes clingy, co-dependent connotations to me. Just, no.
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