I agree with your #2 S-cat. Does that make me not an old lady? Heh
I get what you mean about letting love in where ever it comes from, but I think that of course there is some reasons to be aware of who it is that is coming into ones life. I didn't get what S-cat said to mean just be with whomever off facebook you want, just that there might be some reason to be open to who comes into ones life.
Its true, poly people look for different things sometimes, but I didn't get that that difference was being challenged in what S-cat was saying.