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Old 04-15-2010, 08:13 AM
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Originally Posted by LovingRadiance View Post
When we add a partner we now have twice as many issues to deal with.
I would say adding a partner more than doubles the issues. You still have your own issues as an individual, plus their issues as an individual, plus your mutual issues as a couple.

Theorem: the number of issues for n people in a poly arrangement is multiplied by 2^n - 1

So for 3 people, you have 3 people's individuals (3x) + the couple-wise issues (3x) + the issues as a 3-some (1x) = 7x

4 people, you have 15x the issues as a single person. And so on.
(4x individual + 6x pairs + 4x triples + 1x quad = 15x)

Hey, maybe there's a joint-math/psych thesis in here... lol yeah ok, I think it's bedtime, brain's getting silly...

Besides time, I would say another disadvantage to poly is having to put up with criticism from mainstream people, and having to keep the arrangement secret in some cases, depending on work / legal / social situations... and the difficulty in finding people to date who are either poly or at least open to the idea.
Gralson: my husband (works out of town).
Auto: my girlfriend (lives with her husband Zoffee).

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