I have experienced swinging but currently I am in two committed relationships and we are all out to our families, friends and our community. My identification as a poly female has absolutely nothing to do with my experiences when swinging. One is rich in emotion and love and connection, the other was just fun sexy times.
FetLife is great for swingers, if that is what you are looking for.
Hinge in a vee with two mono men
Wife to DarkKnight and PunkRockAwesomesauce
Girlfriend to WarMan, also mono
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