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Old 04-15-2010, 06:20 AM
jkk jkk is offline
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Default Opened up 1 year ago ... some q's

Hi everyone,

I'm new to this forum, but I've been familiar with polyamory for a long time. My partner and I opened up our relationship (my idea) about a year ago and have each had brushes with other folks who had potential to become lovers or partners, but so far nothing solid has happened outside of our relationship. We have a very open and honest relationship and share our attractions to others all the time. We strive to communicate the best we can and love each other very much.

Just one problem: not enough sex. Why? 1) Because she is physically unable to enjoy it due to constant, recurring bacterial vaginosis, and 2) Much of the time her libido is not as high as mine.

Any advice/experience on the above would be greatly appreciated.

Also, I have a question concerning dating a friend of mine whose company I enjoy and who I'm very attracted to. She's cute, energetic, and has a great personality; very warm and kind and also intelligent. The more I've gotten to know her over the years, the more attracted to her I've become to the point I'm at now where I frequently fantasize about kissing her, undressing her, and having sex with her. Common fantasy for someone that you have a crush on, right?

Okay, so here it goes. This woman -- let's call her L -- is also a good friend of my partner's. L is also already in a relationship with a man, H, who my partner and I are mutual friends with. We all live in a very small community in rural America and hang out a lot. L has expressed her relationship troubles with H to both me and my partner and processes emotions with us often. She is struggling in her relationship because H is depressed, moody, and isolates often.

In my opinion, L deserves so much more that what H gives her. I like H as a friend and don't want to disrespect him by moving in on his partner, but at the same time, I really have a strong attraction to L that I'm dying to share with her when I see her. I just don't know how to approach this situation! There's a big part of me that just wants to get L alone, tell her how I feel, and then kiss her. I've wanted to kiss her for a very long time!

Anyway, I'd love to hear what you folks think!
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