Yep, not a secret...
I don't require that someone I'm with be utterly OUT as poly - I'm in most cases perfectly content with being introduced as a friend if circumstances dictate, work or family or "friends who wouldn't get it".
That said, *I* am out so I don't know that I'd be happy with someone who wasn't comfortable with being introduced as a sig other to people I ordinarily would introduce someone as a sig other to.
Either way, I won't enable cheating under any circumstances, not even a don't-ask-don't-tell sort of thing where it's sort of ok but not "known".
That came off as really judgmental - if the people in question are happy with that as their arrangement it's none of my business, just not something I can/will be involved in from my own personal/family background.
Last edited by icesong; 04-28-2014 at 06:30 PM.
Reason: Wanted to add more to my original thought...