I posted in this thread just over two years ago...and my thinking has not changed. I have a husband, boyfriend, a (new) girlfriend and a couple of FWBs as well as a few intimate-but-not-sexual friends. I am "open" to new relationships, of whatever sort, but not "looking" for anything.
I tend to use labels "after the fact" to describe what IS...not to define what "should" be. The relationship determines the labels and NOT vice versa.
Me: poly bi female, in an "open-but-not-looking" Vee-plus with -
MrS: hetero polyflexible male, live-in husband (22+ yrs)
Dude: hetero poly male, live-in boyfriend (3+ yrs) and MrS's best friend
Lotus: poly bi married female, "it's complicated" relationships with Dude/JaneQ/MrS (1+ years)
+ "others" = FBs, FWBs, lover-friends, platonic G/BFs, boytoys, etc.
My poly blogs here:
The Journey of JaneQSmythe
The Notebook of JaneQSmythe