I know exactly how you feel.
This has been a tough challenge for us as well. We have recently told the kids because we felt that being honest with our children is first and foremost. In addition we wanted them to enjoy the feeling of a larger extended family. Some of the kids are very cool with everything and some are still getting used to it. But close friends, family, etc... not yet.
We seem to be a lot less careful these days and we don't seem to be bothered by it. It's just a matter of time IMO.
Good luck... If telling doesn't hurt anything (ie. career, important relationships, etc...) than I say go for it.
Me: 40ish Male in PolyFi MFMF Quad
Last edited by Squashking; 04-24-2014 at 08:56 PM.