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Old 04-23-2014, 09:46 PM
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It sounds like Dan's not totally on board with poly but has acquiesced, even though it is painful for him. Wouldn't some compassion be in order, especially since this is a relatively recent change to your relationship? Two months is not very long. Is your fiance worth that considetation or not?

If I were you, I would ask myself which deal-breaker is more of a risk - the one that could prevent you from getting jiggy with whoever might come along, or the one that hurts your partner of six years.
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An excellent blog post on hierarchy in polyamory:
solopoly.net/2014/10/31/why-im-not-a-secondary-partner-the-short-version/
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