+1 love for Eclipse's Poe ref.
1. Listen to the great advice above.
2. (This is going to sound cold.) Everyone knows someone who, when you're around them, you think "Wow. At least I'm not that guy/girl." You know one. Spend time with that person for about 15 minutes and remind yourself who you don't want to turn into.
3. Really think about your needs and fears. Then communicate them to your partner.
4. Go about fixing those needs and fears yourself with things to do, goals, entertainment...anything that improves you and moves you forward. If your partner loves you (which it sounds like she does) she'll move in your direction just when you need it the most.
Me - male, 42, poly, straight, in a serious relationship with Audrey, also casually dating.
Audrey - female, 20, poly, pansexual, also casually dating.
Last edited by vanquish; 04-21-2014 at 01:45 PM.