Originally Posted by vanquish
Ive said it before and ill say it again. One of the main adjustments a newly poly person has to make is learning not to invest more emotion than they can handle losing.
Not poly-specific. It's a skill that everyone should have when dating, unless they're uncanny at selecting people who routinely fall in love on the first date.
Never invest more _____ than you can handle losing. Money in the stock market, time into a project, emotion into a relationship... Whatever you do in life, always make sure you can pull out without losing everything you hold dear. Well, except having kids. Don't pull out from that until they're out of the house...