Originally Posted by polybynature
Making him choose seems harsh...I am giving him the option of us swouldn't want together or moving on. And the other things you mention are doubtful,. she has multiple lovers and other interests aside from him. I don't think she wants him at all, but to keep him as a houseboy
I think this is wise. Sounds like she is causing you strife. I would have issues staying with someone who didn't respect themselves and I would eventually lose respect for them.