Originally Posted by MonoVCPHG
Ithought, if I'm fucking another woman than it won't be a big deal that she is fucking other guys. I saw it as a way to take the sting out of the idea that she had other lovers and would have more. ...................................We would never have come this far if I had of tried that as a coping method...and still those thoughts can creep back into my mind from time to time during times of doubt.
There are times, especially when questioned by my friends, that I feel a certain embarrassment at being exclusive with Redpepper.
That is because it's a COPING mechanism, not a sane, rational, reasonably thought out choice. It might fix the emotion IN THE MOMENT-but it isn't a GOOD FIX for YOU, only the emotion-which isn't YOU.
And you my friend are NOT an idiot. I daresay you are one of the sanest and most intelligent people I've encountered. If someone tells you otherwise-just tell them, yeah well LR says you are full of shit!