The one piece of advice I have for you is this,
WHEN we make our choices in fear-they have a HUGE tendency to kick us to the ground in the most unkind and violent ways.
WHEN we choose to control our choices and make them based on sound thought and reasoning-instead of allowing fear to control US and our choices-we tend to be MUCH MUCH happier with the results EVEN if they end up not being what we want and we have to alter our plans.
I say that from experience. But really-Maca could say it even better.
"Love As Thou Wilt"