I have found that I would not enter a relationship where others hold veto power.
Relationships change over time, either the opportunities for that exist or I don't want to get involved.
I want regular FTF time and within that time we do our own thing.
At least one contact with the metamor if they are considered primary, some line of communication should be open even if it is never used.
What rules and boundaries work for one relationship may not for another.
Me: 40s female
Prof: 50s male.
Jay: 50s male.