I'm not surprised that you didn't know about poly until recently. It was a bit of a revelation to me too.
Originally Posted by SheepMusketeer
For me, being poly means having the emotional freedom to love whomever we choose, and to act on those feelings.
This is nothing to do with poly. We all have that freedom whether we are in monogamous relationships, poly ones or have no relationship at all. Nobody else can deny you that freedom (at least not in the UK or US without breaking laws).
We all have the freedom to do as we wish - what we don't have is freedom from the consequences. It doesn't matter if you call yourself poly or mono there are consequences to actions. And consequences to non-action too.
There is no escaping them.