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Old 04-09-2014, 11:55 PM
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He has house guests. Anything could have happened with that, and maybe stuff was going on that prevented him from sending a longer message or explanation. I do think you might be over-reacting and could lighten up about it, though I can understand feeling disappointed. Don't know why you let yourself feel hurt, though. I would be more annoyed than hurt. You're not really that invested, if you think about it - you fucked, and it was good... alrighty. You simply got pleasure from being with him and are looking forward to more. You can bounce back from it, just let him know that it really bothered you. I always err on the side of forgiveness the first time something like this happens, but when I see a pattern is when I become a hard-ass. Hopefully, it won't happen again. I hope this didn't come off as judgy, as I don't mean it that way - just trying to be helpful. You know what is best.
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