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Old 04-09-2014, 02:04 PM
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I think that L is the one you need to use condoms with, and it is highly unreasonable of her to ask or expect you to break your fluid bond with T&J just so she can feel more important to you than they are (it is also a bit arrogant - though arrogance often stems from insecurity) .
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An excellent blog post on hierarchy in polyamory:
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