Originally Posted by nycindie
You may want to read AnotherConfused's story. She is married and her husband is not poly yet has agreed that she can have a bf, as long as she adheres to very specific physical boundaries. She and her bf never have intercourse, and I believe no penetration of any kind.
Well, anyway, her journey is full of insights as she questioned so many things.
Here are two of her threads:
What if polyamory stops working?
Learning to be me
I thought of her too, Cindie, similar. But she was "allowed" "petting" too, not just kissing. And her husband never really got OK with it, even though it was an agreed upon boundary.
Personally, as a full grown-ass woman, I wouldn't be happy with kissing only, like a flapper from the 1920s, or high schooler from the '50's. That would drive me crazy!
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
Mags (poly, F, 61) loving miss pixi (poly, F, 39) since January 2009, living together since 2013
In a newish relationship with Steve, (34, poly)
"Master," (mono, 34), miss pixi's Dom for 3 years