Originally Posted by PolyinPractice
As long as you don't restrict anyone's ability to further a relationship, romantically or sexually (safe sex is an acceptable restriction), I don't think there is anything unethical about having primaries/secondaries.
That's an interesting point. "Primary/secondary" implies hierarchy, and in a hierarchy whatever isn't at the top of a hierarchy is a lower priority that is either limited or warrants less consideration, especially when navigating conflicts or quandaries. In polyamory, hierarchy usually does restrict the scope or potential of some relationships. Ethically, how do you reconcile that?